Hey all ! it has been a while since I have posted anything here
I have been postponing talking about this specific topic for a while now but i decided to share it with you guys today
So Throughout my two years of wearing the Hijab I have came to internalize this feeling of frustration which has been the product of people’s expectation of me as a woman who wears the head scarf.
A little bit of a background story here, Recalling the day when i first decided to wear the head scarf which is by far the best decision i have ever had to make. Taking that one decision however was not easy one nor was it a passive one in fact i like to refer to it as a process through which i was trying to find myself sort of speak , to shape my identity . the hijab was something that i longed for and wearing it has only made me more confident .to me my hijab is far more than just a piece of fabric that I choose to wrap around my head it’s a belief , a conviction and an expression of my faith which insists that worth and power does not lay in my physical appearance but rather in my mind , intellect and what i have to say and offer which is tremendously empowering to me .
Expectations has been a part of my experience as a hijabi I’m never immune to it and i can’t avoid it but that doesn’t mean that I would let it take hold of me , my choices and the way i choose to wear my body although , it took me a while to understand this i used to get really irritated when people refer to my hijab as being too this and too that i would get into conversation after conversation trying to justify my choices and kind off push away whatever assumptions that they hold of me but i eventually came to a realization that wait for it : i can’t please everyone yeah original right ! but on a serious note though i can’t satisfy everybody’s preference of the way how the hijab should be worn I’m always going to be too extreme for some people and too not very much extreme for others but hey it’s my own journey my own experience that only represents me . I Can’t live up to everyone’s standards of how the “ideal hijabi should be like” and you know what I don’t even have to.
The Hijab can’t turn you into a perfect person but hey we all aspire to be better
The Hijab is not a “crown” nor does make me a queen or a princess * cringe* I’m a human being with flaws. i’m prone to making mistakes as much as any other woman that does not wear it .
The Hijab is not a candy wrapper and I’m not a candy OMG this is by far the most pathetic analogy that I have ever come across to. The “candy-wrapper” is a very effective way of turning women’s bodies into over sexualized objects it’s reductive, demeaning and dumb.
Ill end this
Men let’s stop talking about candy wrappers shall we ! 🙂
Let’s start having healthier conversations instead , that does not involve shaming or assuming the worst about each other let’s be thoughtful especially for women who keep on bringing their fellow sisters down let’s start lifting each other up instead. If you see someone struggling with the hijab pray for them that god will ease their struggle because it is not easy.